Archive for June 5, 2012


Question: “I’m not asking to be voted Most Popular Parent of the Year, but how can I be the best parent I can be?”

On May 10, 2012, the NBCToday” show gave one lucky woman, selected as “Mother of the Year,” a check equal to the estimate of what a mother should earn for her daily work based on current wage scales. What figure would the average mother earn for her work in today’s market? $112,962.00.

Parenting is demanding work. Those who raise children are required to wear many hats (CEO and janitor, nutritionist and nurse, counselor and cook, plumber and many others). So, how can parents guide their children into successful adulthood? One of the essential requirements is learning how to establish healthy boundaries.

Moral boundaries are limits based on right and wrong. Personal boundaries are limits that indicate where you begin and another person ends. Parents need to help their children develop moral and personal boundaries that will equip them to live independently once they leave the “nest.” The goal of a good boundary is to teach self-control, which, in turn, develops godly character and an inner moral compass. That moral compass will guide your children to make wise, God-honoring decisions throughout their entire lives.

Kids understand boundaries. They already live with them – from stripes on playing fields to curbs on city streets. When parents establish boundaries, their children have a choice of two “Rs”: Stay within the boundary, they earn a reward, but if they cross the line, they receive a repercussion. Once boundaries are in place, it’s the child – not the parent – who chooses to receive either the reward or the repercussion.

Guidelines for Godly Boundaries

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For boundaries to be effective, they must fit your child and also conform to biblical principles. For example:

• Enact boundaries because your child needs them, not because your child has hurt you. • Eagerly compliment your child’s success at honoring boundaries and deliver appropriate rewards. • Enforce boundaries consistently. • If you are unable to deliver on a repercussion at the time the boundary is crossed, tell your child the issue will be addressed later … and then be sure to do so. • As you administer repercussions, make sure your children know you love them. Don’t react harshly or unreasonably. Never give the impression that you hate them – only that you hate the boundary violation, itself. • Value your children as the treasured gifts from God that they are.

Isn’t it interesting how Solomon (called the wisest man who would ever live in 1 King 3:11-12) advises parents: “Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death” (Proverbs 19:18 NIV).

Let me illustrate with this true story. While sitting beside a college freshman on a flight from Los Angeles to Dallas, I asked, “Did your parents ever give you boundaries?”

“Yes they did,” he quickly answered.

“Did they enforce them?”

“Oh yea,” he replied, nodding his head. “Last year, my parents set a midnight curfew … but one night I came in around 2 a.m. – and that was it! They refused to let me drive my car for two weeks.”

“How did that affect you?”

“It was awful,” he moaned. “Every day I had to ask somebody to drive me to school, and then someone else to take me home. I also needed transportation to and from all my extra-curricular activities. I couldn’t do anything for myself.”

“Did that repercussion make any difference in your life?”

“You bet it did – whenever I was out late, I watched my watch like a hawk!”

“Did you feel your parents were unloving?”

“No – my parents did what they did because they love me.

“Did you feel that the repercussion was excessive?”

“Oh, I thought it was at the time. But all kids think that way when their parents enforce a consequence they don’t like. Yet today, I see how being without my car helped me become much more time-conscious. Now that I’m on my own at Texas A&M, I’m thankful for what my parents did. In fact, I think they’re great!”

The moral of this story could be summarized this way: Parents who enforce boundaries may be afraid of looking like villains who wear “the black hat.” But one day they will be amazed when they see the black hat turn … white.

Created to Soar

Just as arrows are made to be launched from the bow, children are created to soar on their own.

The more you pray and trust God’s personal involvement in your children’s lives, the less possessive you will be – the less reluctant you will be to release them into His hands. Remember that part of being an effective parent is knowing when to “let go.”

• Let go of seeing your child as an extension of yourself. • Let go of your desire to possess your child. • Let go of the inclination to control your child. • Let go of your personal demands for your child. • Let go of jumping in to save your child from failure. • Let go of being a peace-at-any-price parent. • Let go of your need to be appreciated. • Let go of parenthood as your primary identity.

Wise parents know the goal of setting boundaries with children is to build inner character. In turn, inner character produces trust. And trust is the major building block for bonding within all relationships.

If you establish healthy boundaries and enforce them at the proper time, your children may not always vote you “The Most Popular Parent of the Year.” But just wait a while – the Bible says, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11 ESV).

Ultimately, enforcing boundaries with the two “Rs” (rewards and repercussions) will help you win … not the war, but the relationship. And that’s a real win-win.

 

Learn more about June and Hope for the Heart by visiting hopefortheheart.org/CP. Here you can connect with June on Facebook and Twitter, listen to her radio broadcasts, or find much-needed resources.

June is the author of Bonding with Your Teen through Boundaries. Her new book, Bonding with Your Child through Boundaries, is scheduled for release in 2013 from Crossway.

http://www.christianpost.com/news/parenting-and-setting-boundaries-the-2-rs-kids-need-to-understand-76072/


When you’re on the wrong side of Planned Parenthood, you’re on the right side of history.

The left’s disingenuous and intellectually lazy “war on women” talking points have blown up in its face. Most polls show Mitt Romney fast gaining on President Obama with female voters. Some polls even show him pulling ahead.

Still, it’s the multi-billion dollar abortion industry that may just give Romney the boost he needs to take a permanent lead. Just days after pro-life investigative group Live Action released devastating evidence that Planned Parenthood systemically engages in the grisly practice of sex-selection abortion – a charge to which it now admits – the cash-flush abortion Goliath has done Obama an ironic disservice by endorsing his re-election bid. The group has additionally launched a $1.4 million advertising campaign to smear Mitt Romney.

Let’s put aside for a moment the scandalous disclosure that while Planned Parenthood receives over 350 million per annum in your taxpayer dollars, it nonetheless spends millions engaging in partisan politicking for the DNC. Troubling as that may be, utterly horrific is the revelation that this extremist organization – which absurdly presumes to defend “women’s rights” – has been caught red-handed torturing little girls to death in mamma’s womb, simply because mamma wanted a boy.

This discovery – eerily reminiscent of Communist China’s forced one-child sex-selection policy – has shocked the conscience of an entire nation. So disturbing are the facts that on Thursday the U.S. House of Representatives voted on the Prenatal Non-Discrimination Act (PRENDA), H.R. 354, introduced by Republicans in Congress. Unbelievably, because the bill required a two-thirds majority for passage, Democrats were able to narrowly abort the measure by a vote of 246-168.

The legislation, which would have outlawed sex-selection abortions altogether, was also opposed by President Obama. This comes as little surprise when you consider that, while a state senator, Obama repeatedly fought Illinois’ Born Alive Infant Protection Act. This law simply required that when a baby survives a botched abortion – when she is “born alive” – further attempts to kill her must immediately cease, and steps must be taken to save her life.

But according to our president – leader of the “civilized” world – a law preventing the abortionist from finishing her off is “really designed simply to burden the original decision of the woman and the physician to induce labor and perform an abortion.”

This, coupled with Democratic support for sex-selection abortion (now on record), represents the true “war on women.” This is misogyny at its deadly worst. Take note, America: Obama and Democrats have officially endorsed the Mengelian practice of explicitly targeting little girls – over boys – for live dismemberment.

Still, there is good news here. This entire saga has placed in the national spotlight the irreconcilable incongruities central to our nation’s ongoing policy of legalized abortion on demand.

Consider, for instance, that under current federal and state law, if an off-duty abortionist – if any man, for that matter – physically assaults a woman and her unborn daughter dies, that man has committed murder. Yet if mom walks into Planned Parenthood and authorizes that same man to rip her baby girl limb-from-limb, it’s her “choice.” First case: murder. Second case: “choice.” Both cases: dead baby girl.

Furthermore, consider that – as established by a 2006 Zogby International poll of over 30,000 Americans in 48 states – 86 percent support a law banning sex-selection abortion. Doesn’t it stand to reason, then, that since the vast majority recognize the objectively reprehensible nature of sex-selection abortion, they, too, might recognize that it’s equally reprehensible for mom to have baby killed for no reason at all? This is what current law allows, without restriction, through the ninth month.

Indeed, incongruities abound. Still, it is the indefensible nature of empty “pro-choice” rhetoric that, I believe, will ultimately end legalized abortion in America. Truth, even when buried for decades, eventually has a way of rising to the surface.

It’s inevitable. Roe v. Wade will, in time, be tossed, alongside the slavery-justifying Dred Scott decision, exactly where both shameful scars on Lady Liberty belong: in the trash heap of historical inhumanity.

Just as those who excused slavery are reviled by history, so, too, will be those who called themselves “pro-choice.”

Matt Barber

Matt Barber is an attorney concentrating in constitutional law. He is Vice President of Liberty Counsel Action and serves as Associate Dean and Adjunct Assistant Professor of Law at Liberty University School of law. In addition to his law degree, Matt holds a Master of Arts in Public Policy from Regent University.

http://townhall.com/columnists/mattbarber/2012/06/05/equal_rights_for_unborn_feminists/page/full/


The Founders wouldn’t believe it.  The Colorado Court of Appeals says the governor may not proclaim an official day of prayer because of a clause in the state constitution prohibiting that “any preference be given by law to any religious denomination or mode of worship.

This novel interpretation would come as a surprise not only to the governors who have issued such proclamations dating back many years, but also to the authors of that very constitution, who declared in its preamble their “profound reverence for the Supreme Ruler of the Universe.”

They couldn’t have intended the religious preference clause to become a barrier to state action encouraging Coloradans to seek that Supreme Ruler’s favor. Good to know that Gov. John Hickenlooper has directed Attorney General John Suthers to appeal the ruling to the state Supreme Court, which should surely overturn it based on logic and precedent.

But wait; did I say “surely”?  When it comes to religion and politics, church and state, nothing is sure any more.  Also headed for the Colorado Supreme Court is an ACLU challenge to parents in suburban Douglas County using their own tax dollars to educate their own children in (horrors) faith-based schools.

Meanwhile at the Colorado General Assembly we’ve seen both political parties consider divorcing the legal definition of marriage from its time-honored theological definition. It didn’t happen this year, but the trend is plain. The rationale for gay civil unions was put this way by Gov. Hickenlooper: “We don’t believe we should legislate what happens inside a church or place of worship, but government should treat all people equally.”

Leaving aside the vexed question of how the law recognizes different kinds of couples, look what the governor is saying in that sentence BEFORE the comma. He implies that government’s power over you and me stops only at the church door.  This echoes a theme from President Obama, whose speeches always refer to “freedom of worship,” not “freedom of religion.”

What’s the difference?  Freedom of religion includes the individual right of conscience in conduct outside of church – exactly what secular theocrats are trampling on with the HHS mandate for Catholic and evangelical institutions to provide drugs for contraception or abortion, in violation of their allegiance to God.

“The Supreme Ruler of the Universe,” you see, is no longer acknowledged as a reality under the dominant liberal consensus.  He, or it, is now treated as just an outmoded notion which backward folk are allowed to preach about in their sanctuaries – but to whom they must no longer render homage by public word or deed.  That homage is now supposed to be Caesar’s alone.

Where is all this leading?  For over a millennium and a half, ever since the Emperor Constantine in 312 A.D., Christians in Europe and eventually America have been accustomed to friendly treatment by civil government.  But that is over, over there, and may soon be over with here.

The Church of State, as my Colorado Christian University colleague Kevin Miller calls it in his important book “Freedom Nationally, Virtue Locally,” is setting up as the one and only religious establishment. I won’t say get used to it, because we never should.  It must be fought.

But we who honor the God of the Bible had better gird ourselves, for this will get worse before it gets better.  We’d better study the persecuted church, thriving in China and Africa; our own time may be coming. We must realize, as the Founders knew, that America is not in the Bible.  Americans are, however.  It holds vast wisdom and warning for us.

As the Constantinian settlement – itself quite unscriptural – passes away, a good place to start would be Jesus’ own rule: “Render to Caesar, render to God.”  That balance, the only safe harbor for faith and freedom, was lost in Christendom centuries ago.  It is now ours to rebuild.

John Andrews

John Andrews is former president of the Colorado Senate and the author of “Responsibility Reborn: A Citizen’s Guide to the Next American Century”

http://townhall.com/columnists/johnandrews/2012/06/04/government_hostility_to_religion_keeps_mounting/page/full/

Prayer: A Heavenly Invitation

Posted: June 5, 2012 in Max Lucado

Prayer: A Heavenly Invitation.


“You are a chosen generation, . . . a holy nation . . . that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness. ” 1 Peter 2:9

My wife, Martie, and I have grown to love England—its history, culture, and people. One of our favorite activities when we visit is going to outdoor concerts (also known as proms) on the sloping lawns of ancient estates. “The Last Night of the Proms” event is the best, with fireworks and hundreds of nationals waving little British flags to rousing patriotic tunes.

We loved joining the celebration—until the summer our children came with us. When we started waving our flags with all the enthusiastic Brits, our kids were aghast. I can still hear them shouting over the music, “What are you doing?! You’re Americans!”

God must often feel like that when we blend in and live like the “locals” around us. I can almost hear Him saying, “What are you doing living like that?! You belong to My nation!”

Peter reminds us that we are different from the locals—we are a “holy nation” (1 Peter 2:9). Being holy means that we are unique, set apart for Jesus, becoming like Him, and reflecting His countercultural ways of living. It means that we are forgiving in the face of cruel offenses; and merciful, gracious, truthful, and loyal to our promises. It means being just like Him.

So let’s start waving the flag of holiness as members of the “Jesus nation”!

O child of God, guard well your life From anything that stains the heart; Forsake those things that soil the mind— Your Father wants you set apart.  —Fasick

Our loyalty to Jesus should be seen and heard in our lives.

http://getmorestrength.org/daily/national-pride/


He Himself has said . . . . So we may boldly say . . . —Hebrews 13:5-6


My assurance is to be built upon God’s assurance to me. God says, “I will never leave you,” so that then I “may boldly say, ’The Lord is my helper; I will not fear’ ” (Hebrews 13:5-6). In other words, I will not be obsessed with apprehension. This does not mean that I will not be tempted to fear, but I will remember God’s words of assurance. I will be full of courage, like a child who strives to reach the standard his father has set for him. The faith of many people begins to falter when apprehensions enter their thinking, and they forget the meaning of God’s assurance— they forget to take a deep spiritual breath. The only way to remove the fear from our lives is to listen to God’s assurance to us.

What are you fearing? Whatever it may be, you are not a coward about it— you are determined to face it, yet you still have a feeling of fear. When it seems that there is nothing and no one to help you, say to yourself, “But ’The Lord is my helper’ this very moment, even in my present circumstance.” Are you learning to listen to God before you speak, or are you saying things and then trying to make God’s Word fit what you have said? Take hold of the Father’s assurance, and then say with strong courage, “I will not fear.” It does not matter what evil or wrong may be in our way, because “He Himself has said, ’I will never leave you . . . .’ ”

Human frailty is another thing that gets between God’s words of assurance and our own words and thoughts. When we realize how feeble we are in facing difficulties, the difficulties become like giants, we become like grasshoppers, and God seems to be nonexistent. But remember God’s assurance to us— “I will never. . . forsake you.” Have we learned to sing after hearing God’s keynote? Are we continually filled with enough courage to say, “The Lord is my helper,” or are we yielding to fear?

http://utmost.org/god%E2%80%99s-assurance/


“But all this gives me no satisfaction as long as I see that Jew Mordecai sitting at the king’s gate.”Esther 5:13

Haman had it all. He knew it too. In front of his closest family and friends, he enumerated his many blessings. He had many sons, plenty of wealth, and power second only to the king. And that’s not all. Haman had been invited to an exclusive, private party given by the Queen for just the king and himself.

It doesn’t get much better than that! But – and that’s the key word – it all meant nothing to him when he saw Mordecai the Jew. Mordecai was the only person in the entire kingdom who refused to bow down to Haman, and that drove Haman crazy.

The Talmud asks a question:  where is Haman hinted at in the Scriptures? The answer:  “Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” (Genesis 3:11). The Hebrew word that begins this sentence has exactly the same spelling as “Haman,” and the theme of this phrase has much in common with the kind of person that Haman was.

This question is asked by God to Adam and Eve after they had eaten from the one tree in the Garden of Eden that had been banned to them. God had created a whole orchard of trees for humanity to enjoy. Adam and Eve would never go hungry! But – and there’s that word again – there was just one tree that was off limits. And of course, as we know, that’s the fruit Adam and Eve went after.

Haman, Adam, and Eve all have one thing in common. They focused on what they didn’t have and missed the beauty of what they did have. Even worse, their sad perspective is what leads to their ultimate downfall.

I recently received an email with the following quote written across a picture of an adorable toddler holding a camera and trying to take a picture of herself:  “Life is like a camera. Just focus on what’s important. Capture the GOOD TIMES! Develop from the negatives. And if things don’t work out – just take another shot.”

Too bad Haman didn’t have email. What a different life he might have led had he learned to focus on all of the blessings in his life. Imagine the difference it can make for you!

http://www.holylandmoments.org/devotionals/keep-your-focus


“There are tens of thousands of plural families in Utah and other states. We are one of those families. We only wish to live our private lives according to our beliefs. While we understand that this may be a long struggle in court, it has already been a long struggle for my family and other plural families to end the stereotypes and unfair treatment given consensual polygamy. We are indebted to Professor Turley and his team for their work and dedication. Together we hope to secure equal treatment with other families in the United States.”

That was the statement released by the Brown family of “Sister Wives” fame shortly after the show premiered on TLC several years ago. The day after the premier, Utah police announced that they were opening an investigation on the “family” on suspicions of bigamy. The investigation was dropped just a few days ago on June 1, presumably because the Browns left Utah for Nevada. Kody Brown, the husband in the “marriage” thingy, has sued the county, the governor, and the attorney general “claiming the state’s bigamy statute violates their constitutional rights to due process, equal protection, free exercise of religion, free speech and freedom of association,” according to the Associated Press.

 

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What is interesting about this statement and Brown’s suit is that if you replace “bigamy” and “plural” with “gay,” it is pretty evident that the challenge to change the essence of marriage would­­ not stop with legalizing homosexual marriage.­­­­ Indeed, the next battle is already starting with constitutional challenges like Mr. Brown’s.

More concerning still is the fact that both the country and the state essentially admitted that the Brown’s lifestyle was illegal, but it is their policy not to prosecute unless there are other crimes like abuse going on in the home. While polygamy is illegal, the laws are not enforced. The government already accepts these arrangements.

That is not only one reason that Kody Brown’s franchise marriage scheme should be disturbing. As with TLC’s other problematic reality show, All-American Muslim, the cable channel uses the show as a mode of indoctrination to normalize the concept of multiple marriages in the minds of its viewers.

The episodes I watched from this past Sunday featured Kody and his four wives discussing opening a business and buying a house – for each individual wife and her children. The wives got together to figure out how to celebrate Valentine’s day and cameras followed Kody to a flower shop where he asked the befuddled florist for four bouquets for his wives. The florist was quick to tell the camera that, while he wasn’t the average customer, it wasn’t her place to judge.

“See?” the subtext says, “they are just like normal families, just with their own sets of challenges.

There is nothing wrong with ‘plural families.’”

One moment shined in the episode about Valentine’s Day, however. After several of the young daughters asked their dad to take them all to a father/daughter dance, one of the daughters instead asked her brother to escort her. She informed her mom that she did not want to share her date. Then she dropped a bomb on her mom with, “I’m not going to be a polygamist when I grow up, so…” Her mother sounded shocked that she’d “already decided at [her] young age” and told her that if she (the mother) was not a polygamist, neither the little girl nor her brother would exist.

Is it so shocking that a girl would not want to share her Prince Charming with three other women? Seems pretty normal to me.

Take a minute to let the advertisers of this show know that we as Christians, Americans, and their audience still believe in marriage – real marriage – as it has been and always will be truthfully defined: one man and one woman.

http://www.americandecency.org/archives/when-a-man-loves-a-woman-and-a-woman-and-a-woman-and-a-woman/#more-6711


Joseph was bought from the merchants by an officer who had command over the soldiers of Pharaoh, the ruler of Egypt; and after a time of trial he prospered so well that he became one of the chief officers of the king, having among other tasks the care of the royal granaries or storehouses of corn.

Now Joseph, who was very wise and thoughtful, caused great storehouses of brick to be set up in all the cities, and he told the people to place in these granaries one-tenth of the yield of each year’s harvest. This he did to guard against any time of famine which might fall upon the land.

For seven years of plenty this was done, and after that there came upon the land and upon all the lands round about seven years of famine; and only in the land of Egypt was there corn for the people. And when the people cried to Pharaoh for bread he said, “Go unto Joseph; what he saith to you, do.” Then Joseph opened all the storehouses, and sold corn to the Egyptians. And from all the countries round about people came into Egypt to buy corn.

Far away in the Vale of Hebron the famine was sore, and the sons of Jacob did not know what to do. Then when things were at their worst news came to Jacob that there was corn in Egypt. So he sent his ten sons away with their empty sacks and their asses to buy corn for their families. They wished to take their young brother Benjamin with them, but their father would not allow them. He had lost Joseph, he said, and he would not risk Benjamin with them.

Having crossed many a weary mile of yellow sand and barren rock, they were stopped by a high wall set with forts and gates guarded by soldiers; and they had to say what they wanted before they were allowed to pass into Egypt.

For days they walked by the side of the great river Nile, along the road to Memphis, where the king’s stores were, and at length they saw the city upon an island in the river. Stepping into broad ferry-boats with their animals, they were taken over, and went up the long road, lined on each side with the figures of winged lions in stone, towards the wide market-place of the great city. There they made known what they wanted, saying that they had come from Hebron to buy corn; and their names and business were written down on a tablet, which was taken to the keeper of the granaries.

Word soon came that they must go before the keeper; and they were warned to be careful what they said, for he was one of the king’s chief officers. Taking off their sandals and cloaks at the steps, the ten Hebrew shepherds went between the pillars at the door and stood waiting.

Within sat a young Egyptian, dressed in a robe of white linen, and wearing a great black wig of horsehair with many small plaits. His scribes sat at tables below him, writing down any orders he might wish to give.

An Egyptian soldier told the sons of Jacob to go forward. Then the ten men went in and knelt down humbly before the young Egyptian; nor did they rise until he gave them leave. He looked at them and frowned, and they were afraid.

“Where do you come from?” the officer asked sharply.

“From the land of Canaan, to buy corn,” was the humble answer.

“You are spies!” he cried in a passion. “You have come to spy out the weakness of the land. What is your calling? Who are your friends?”

The ten Hebrews could scarcely speak for terror. They had heard terrible stories of how these fierce Egyptians never allowed spies to get out of their country alive.

“No, my lord; thy servants have come to buy food,” said one. “We are all one man’s sons,” cried another. “We are honest men; thy servants are no spies,” pleaded a third.

But the great Egyptian only listened with a frown to their whining voices. “No,” he replied firmly; “you have come to spy out the weakness of Egypt. Is your father alive? Have you another brother?”

Why was this man so angry with them? they wondered.

“We belong to one family of twelve brothers,” Judah replied. “We have a father, an old man, and another brother, the child of his old age, and he alone is left of his mother’s children, and his father loves him much. We are the sons of one man in Canaan, and truly the youngest is now with our father, and one other is dead.”

Was he still angry? They lifted their dark eyes to the stern face of the young Egyptian.

“I see you are spies,” was the harsh reply, but his voice was softer. “In this way I will prove you. By the king’s life, you shall not go back unless your younger brother is brought here to me. Send one among you to bring him, and the rest of you shall be kept in prison until he returns. So shall I prove whether what you say is true. If you will not do this, then by the king’s life you are spies indeed!” He waved them away with his hand, and the Egyptian soldiers pushed them out at the door, telling them that they must come away at once to prison.

As they sat on the earthen floor of the prison looking at each other in silence, they felt amazed and full of sorrow, thinking that they would never see their tents and their little ones again. For they did not know that the king’s officer was their own brother Joseph, and that instead of being angry, he was really filled with joy at seeing them after twenty years of separation. As for his angry words, he was only trying them, and meant nothing but kindness, as we shall see.

Joseph’s brothers were to be kept in prison until they settled who should ride back in haste to Hebron to bring Benjamin down into Egypt; but Joseph’s heart was tender, and after a while he began to think that perhaps he had been too harsh with them.

One man, he told himself, could not carry enough corn to feed all the starving families in Hebron, and it might be dangerous for him to ride back alone. His old father, too, would be anxious. So he sent word to the prison that the brothers might all go home but Simeon, who must stay in prison until the rest came back with their young brother.

He also gave orders that they were to have their corn-sacks filled, and that each man’s money was to be secretly tied up again in the mouth of his sack.

All the brothers were glad but Simeon, who begged them to come back as quickly as they could; and riding on their high camels, with their well-laden asses tied to each other in a long line, they left the Egyptian city, thankful to get away, and went back to their old father in Hebron.

Jacob was glad to see them again, but he would not believe their story about Simeon being left behind; and he refused to let them have Benjamin, for he said that Joseph was once taken and never came back, and that the same fate would befall the other son of his old age.

When they said that the Egyptian ruler had ordered them to bring their young brother down, their old father only asked, with flashing eyes, why they told the Egyptian that they had another brother. They replied quite truly that he asked them the question. Jacob did not believe them, and this made him all the more determined not to trust Benjamin with them.

But the corn which they had brought was soon finished, and the old man urged his sons to go back to Egypt for more. They refused to do so unless they could take Benjamin with them; and after holding out for a long time, at last their father yielded. He bade them make up a little present of honey and dates and simple country things for the terrible Egyptian, hoping that the great man would not be unkind to his youngest son. Then with hands upraised he asked God’s blessing upon his sons, and with a sorrowful heart saw them ride away.

Mounted on strong camels, and followed by a string of asses with the empty corn-sacks on their backs, the ten brothers left the Vale of Hebron, and rode slowly across the hot desert to one of the gates of the great Egyptian wall. Again they came to the island, and were ferried over to the city as before.             The camels knelt in the wide marketplace, where Joseph had been sold as a slave twenty years before, to wait while one of the brothers went to tell the doorkeeper of Joseph’s house that the ten shepherds of Canaan had returned with their youngest brother. After waiting for a time they were told that the king’s officer would see them.

Joseph was glad when he heard that his brothers had come back again, and that they had brought his youngest brother with them. Pulling his black wig down over his brow to hide his pleasure, he ordered them to be brought in; and when they came and knelt before him, it was not on Judah or Reuben, but on the young man Benjamin, that he fixed his searching eyes.

His brother had grown so much that he hardly knew him for the little boy who used to run about the camp holding his hand as he took him to see the little lambs and the small black kids at play.

“Take these men to my house, for I shall dine with them to-day,” was all Joseph said. The brothers were amazed when the meaning of the Egyptian words was made known to them. And when the gates of the courtyard closed behind them, they thought they were prisoners again, and sat down on the stone pavement to sigh and mourn.

But at noon there came a loud knocking at the gate, and the red and green chariot of the great Egyptian drove in, and soon they were summoned to stand before him. With their simple presents in their hands, they went through the garden and into his beautiful house, and kneeling, laid the gifts at his feet.

“Is your father well?” the great man asked in a kindly voice. “The old man of whom you spoke-is he still alive?”

“Thy servant our father is alive and in good health,” they answered humbly.

“Is this your younger brother, of whom you spoke?” he asked again, speaking as if he did not know one from another. Benjamin answered with a low bow; and Joseph said, “May God be gracious to thee, my son!” Then Benjamin looked up at him, and Joseph felt the tears coming into his eyes; and rising from his chair, to the surprise of the men, he left the hall. They did not know why he had done so. But if they had seen him in his own room weeping like a child for very joy, they would have been more astonished still.

The meal was served, and the ten brothers were surprised when the Egyptian ruler set them at a table all in the order of their ages; but even yet they did not know who he was. Joseph sat at a table by himself, with a beautiful silver wine-cup before him, and he sent plates of choice food to each of his brothers; but he sent to Benjamin five times as much as to any of the rest.

Next morning they were sent home with their asses laden with well-filled corn-sacks. They were very glad to get away so quickly, and they wondered as they went why the great Egyptian had been so kind to them. But even yet the thought that he might be none other than Joseph had not entered their minds.

Now Joseph had told his overseer that as he filled the brothers’ corn-sacks he was to put their money into them again, and also to take his own beautiful silver cup and put it into the mouth of Benjamin’s sack. This was done for a purpose, as we shall see.

Next day, when the brothers had set out on their journey, the overseer was sent for by his young master, who ordered him to put horses into his chariot, to ride after the ten Hebrews, and to ask them why they had stolen his master’s silver cup.

Cracking his whip as he went, the Egyptian drove along the road, and soon overtook the returning travellers. Checking his horses, he stepped out of his red chariot and sternly asked why they had returned evil for good by stealing his master’s precious silver cup; and he smiled when he saw the fear in the faces of the dusky Hebrews, and laughed when they all said that they knew nothing of the cup.

He did not believe them, he said, and would search for the cup himself; and he laughed again when they said he could search at once, and if he found it with any one of them, he could put that man to death and make all the rest of them the slaves of his master.

Of course the silver cup was found in Benjamin’s sack; and pointing his finger at him, the Egyptian said that he would take him back to be his master’s slave, but as for the rest of the men, they could go on their journey to their homes.

The brothers wrung their hands at these words, and their hearts sank within them. Judah had promised his father that he would bring Benjamin back again safe and sound, and now the lad was to become the slave of this terrible young ruler! After all, the man’s kindness of the day before was only intended to make them feel the pain all the more when he seized their young brother to be his slave. They could not return to their old father without him. They would go back to the Egyptian city, they said, and all go to prison together rather than part with Benjamin.

In those days, when Hebrews were overcome with grief they tore their clothes, that all might see how sorrowful they were; and Judah was the first to seize his tunic and tear it down the front from neck to hem, and the others did the same. In a mournful procession they followed the Egyptian’s chariot back to the city; and the people gazed at them as they passed, and laughed.

When they reached Joseph’s house and entered the courtyard, they sent in a very humble message, begging that he would see them. And when they came into his presence they knelt before him with bowed heads, till their brows touched the coloured pavement.

“What is this that you have done?” he asked. “Do you not know that such a man as I can find out secret things?”

Joseph wished to frighten them, but in his heart he was glad that his brothers had not gone away, leaving Benjamin behind in slavery. They were kinder now than on that day so long ago when they sold him to the dark merchantmen in the far-off Vale of Dothan.

In a pleading voice Judah told the terrible Egyptian that all of them were now his slaves. But Joseph replied that he only wanted the man who stole his silver cup; the rest could return to their father.

Then Judah had more to say. Holding up his hands for mercy, he told the story of how they had begged their old father to let Benjamin come; adding that if they returned without him, the old man would die of grief. And to Joseph’s surprise, he begged that he would let him stay behind and be his slave for ever in place of his young brother, and let Benjamin go home to his father.

At times while Judah was speaking Joseph looked at Benjamin, and sometimes he turned away his head lest they should see the tears in his eyes. And when his older brother offered to be his slave for ever, the young Egyptian suddenly ordered every one to leave the room but the Hebrews; and he remained silent, with his head turned away, while his Egyptian friends and servants went slowly out.

As soon as they were all gone he sprang to his feet, and held out his hands to his brothers, calling to them in Hebrew,-

“I am Joseph! Is my father indeed alive?”

The men gazed at him in amazement. What would this terrible Egyptian do next? Who was this who knew about their brother whom they had sold into slavery? They were dumb with wonder.

“Come nearer to me, I beg of you,” he pleaded. It was the voice of Joseph that rang in their ears. They came nearer, and gazed up at the great man. These cheeks were too ruddy for an Egyptian, and these brown eyes-were they not the eyes of Joseph!

“I am Joseph, your brother, whom you sold into Egypt!” he cried. They could no longer doubt that he spoke the truth to them; and as they came forward he clasped them in his arms one by one, weeping for very joy. Then seeing in their eyes the deep sorrow for their past unkindness, he added,-

“Be not grieved nor angry that you sold me into Egypt, for it was God who sent me hither to save many lives in the years of famine. I am lord of the king’s palace and ruler of all Egypt.”

Then he took his wondering brothers home with him to stay in his fine house, where his Egyptian wife and their little children lived; and after a time he sent them away, laden with presents, and with wagons to bring down their children and their old father Jacob into Egypt. For they were all to come down, he said, and live in the golden and fruitful land of Goshen, and he would watch over them there.

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The Apostle‘ prays that we may know the riches of the glory of God‘s inheritance in His saints. God is our inheritance, and we are His. We are called to possess Him; He desires to possess us. His nature will yield crops of holy helpfulness to those who diligently seek Him; and He demands crops of holy love and devotion from ours.

What Sovereign Grace is here! – There was nothing in us to distinguish us from others. We were but part of the great moorland waste, when He fenced us in, and placed us under His tillage and husbandry. It is by the grace of God that we are what we are. “To the praise of the glory of His grace, wherein He hath made us accepted in the Beloved: in whom we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace.”

What responsibility! – Three times over in this chapter we are bidden to take heed to ourselves. It is no small thing to have been the subjects of God’s special workmanship; because He is a jealous God, very quick to mark the least symptom of declension, and very searching in His dealing and discipline. As we learn here, our God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.

What Hope! – We cannot derive much from ourselves, however we toil and strive. Self cannot discipline self to any advantage. The field is worked out. The Divine Husbandman must put into us what He would take out of us; He needs therefore to have almost infinite resources. But these are God’s, and if we yield ourselves to Him, He can make all grace abound toward us, that we, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound unto every good work.

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