Archive for June 17, 2012


I have two twentysomething daughters who’re currently taking over the planet. When these female charges popped out of their mommy’s womb, this thing called “responsibility for their upbringing” hit me like a Jackie Chan punch.

I didn’t slough off my role in their lives onto my wife, my church, public school, day care, relatives, TV, or “the village.” I didn’t expect any of the aforementioned to fill my boots chiefly because … they can’t.

Living in Miami, I knew I would have to pony up and become a major player in my little ones’ lives if I wanted them to escape being part of the local teen chum slick. In other words, I was going to have to be a dad in the traditional sense of the word.

Here’s a little FYI for slack-jawed sperm donor baby daddies out there: A lack of mental, physical, and spiritual input from you, dad, will exponentially boost the odds that your youngster will grow up to be more lost than an AK-47 under Holder’s oversight.But you probably don’t give a crap because you’re the type who wears sunglasses indoors. It’s always sunny in Doucheville, eh?

Now, the man-hating feminists would love for us all to believe that a dad’s role in his daughter’s life really isn’t that important and that a father can be easily replaced by extra mothers, or public school, or some government program; however, the facts speak to the contrary.

For instance, when a little girl has a loving dad in her life who is a provider, protector, hunter, and hero, research shows that said lucky lady is going to turn into one amazing woman. Yep, when a great pappy is in the house, these are the kinds of reports you hear:

· Toddlers securely attached to fathers are better at solving problems.

· Six-month-olds scored higher on tests of mental development when their dads were involved in their lives.

· With dads in the home, kids managed school stress better.

· Girls whose dads provide warmth and control achieve higher academic success.

· Girls who are close to their fathers exhibit less anxiety and withdrawn behaviors.

The good news doesn’t stop there. As little darlings mature and plow into puberty and beyond with dads who’re worth their salt at their sides, these young women show these not-too-shabby traits:

· The likelihood that daughters engage in premarital sex, drug use, and alcohol plummets when their dads are involved in their lives.

· Girls with doting fathers are more assertive.

· Daughters who feel that their dads care about them and feel connected with their dads have significantly fewer suicide attempts and fewer instances of body dissatisfaction, depression, low self-esteem, substance abuse, and unhealthy weight.

· Girls involved with dad are twice as likely to stay in school.

· A girl’s self esteem is best predicted by her dad’s loving affection.

· Girls with fathers involved in their lives have higher quantitative and verbal skills and higher intellectual functioning.

· Girls whose parents divorce or separate before they turn 21 tend to have shorter life spans by four years.

· Girls with decent dads are less likely to flaunt themselves to seek male attention.

· Fathers help daughters to be more competent, more achievement oriented, and more successful.

· Girls with involved fathers wait longer to initiate sex and have lower rates of teen pregnancy. Teen girls who live with both parents are three times less likely to lose their virginity before their sixteenth birthday.

· 76 percent of teen girls said their fathers influenced their decisions on whether they should become sexually active.

· 97 percent of girls who said they could talk to their parents had lower teen pregnancy rates.

· A daughter from a middle-class family has a fivefold lower risk of out-of-wedlock pregnancy if her father lives at home.

· Girls who live with their mothers only have significantly less ability to control their impulses, delay gratification, and have a weaker sense of right and wrong.

· Kids do better academically when their fathers establish rules and exhibit affection.

(The above bullet points were taken from Meg Meeker’s book, Your Kids at Risk: How Teen Sex Threatens Our Sons and Daughters .)

Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers out there who are living their lives in the grand masculine sense of the word. No matter what the man-hating, nerve-grating feminists yammer, you are irreplaceable in the grand family scheme of things. Therefore, stay your traditional course and watch life pay you back in spades. Salute!

Doug Giles

Doug Giles is the author of Raising Righteous & Rowdy Girls. Follow him on Twitter @Doug_Giles and on Facebook. You can see and hear Doug’s video blog and talk show at ClashRadio.com.


http://townhall.com/columnists/douggiles/2012/06/17/hey_manhating_nervegrating_feminists_good_fathers_are_irreplaceable/page/full/

Meet the God of Encouragement

Posted: June 17, 2012 in Max Lucado

Meet the God of Encouragement.


We . . . are being transformed into [Christ’s] image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord. —2 Corinthians 3:18

Rick Warren’s The Purpose-Driven Life has had an  unbelievable run on the best-seller lists. Its phenomenal appeal reminds  us that believers and nonbelievers alike have a deep longing for a  clear sense of purpose. We all want to know that our lives are involved  in something worthwhile. Without a strong sense of calling and purpose,  life is nothing more than routine busyness.

Being a follower of Jesus gives us a distinct advantage when it comes  to having a sense of purpose. The Westminster Catechism sums it up well  when it says the “chief end of man” is to “glorify God and to enjoy Him  forever.”

Glorifying God means putting His character, His will, and His ways  into action in all that we do. The apostle Paul reminded us that we “are  being transformed into [Christ’s] image from glory to glory, just as by  the Spirit of the Lord” (2 Cor. 3:18).  The purpose of our lives is to let others see what God is like as they  watch and experience His love through us.

What a profound privilege it is to mirror God’s love, mercy, grace,  justice, and righteousness to a world whose heart is “veiled” to God’s  truth! (2 Cor.4:3-4). Our purpose is to show others less of us and more of  Him. That’s living on purpose with a purpose!

So let our lips and lives express The holy gospel we profess, So let our words and virtues shine To prove the doctrine all divine. —Watts

The Christian’s purpose is to promote  God’s plan.


http://getmorestrength.org/daily/on-purpose/


Judge not, that you be not judged —Matthew 7:1


Jesus’ instructions with regard to judging others is very simply put; He says, “Don’t.” The average Christian is the most piercingly critical individual known. Criticism is one of the ordinary activities of people, but in the spiritual realm nothing is accomplished by it. The effect of criticism is the dividing up of the strengths of the one being criticized. The Holy Spirit is the only one in the proper position to criticize, and He alone is able to show what is wrong without hurting and wounding. It is impossible to enter into fellowship with God when you are in a critical mood. Criticism serves to make you harsh, vindictive, and cruel, and leaves you with the soothing and flattering idea that you are somehow superior to others. Jesus says that as His disciple you should cultivate a temperament that is never critical. This will not happen quickly but must be developed over a span of time. You must constantly beware of anything that causes you to think of yourself as a superior person.

There is no escaping the penetrating search of my life by Jesus. If I see the little speck in your eye, it means that I have a plank of timber in my own (see Matthew 7:3-5). Every wrong thing that I see in you, God finds in me. Every time I judge, I condemn myself (see Romans 2:17-24). Stop having a measuring stick for other people. There is always at least one more fact, which we know nothing about, in every person’s situation. The first thing God does is to give us a thorough spiritual cleaning. After that, there is no possibility of pride remaining in us. I have never met a person I could despair of, or lose all hope for, after discerning what lies in me apart from the grace of God.


http://utmost.org/beware-of-criticizing-others/


When Jesus came back to Capernaum He found the crowd of friends at the little wharf full of concern about Him, and glad that no harm had come to Him during the storm. Among them was one who had watched anxiously for the boat, for he had a little daughter at home very ill indeed, so ill that she was “at the last breath.” His name was Jairus, and he was a ruler of the synagogue. He was so troubled that he fell at the feet of Jesus, begging Him to come and lay His hand on his child that she might live.

Jesus went with him, a throng of people with them, hoping to see Him do a great work.

While He was on the way a woman who had been sick twelve years followed close behind Him, and put forth her hand timidly toward Him.

“If I may touch but His clothes I shall be whole,” she said to herself, and she touched them with faith in her heart.

Jesus, who knew all hearts, turned straight around and said:

“Who touched My clothes?”

How the woman shrank back and trembled when she heard that, for she was afraid she had done wrong.

The disciples thought it strange that He should ask this, as the people thronged so close that they could not help touching Jesus But the woman knew what He meant and she came and fell down before Him, fearing and trembling, and told Him all the truth.

Jesus did not look sternly at her as she thought He would do, but He said gently,

“Daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace, and be whole of thy plague.”

While the woman was still at His feet full of gratitude and love because she felt herself cured, some friends came from the ruler’s house to bring sad news.

“Thy daughter is dead,” they said, “why troublest thou the Master any further?”

Jesus saw the looks of grief on the father’s face and said quickly,

“Be not afraid, only believe.”

So they went to the ruler’s house, and into the inner room where the little maid lay. Many wished to press in after them to see what Jesus would do, but he took only Peter and James and John with the father and mother of the maiden into the quiet, darkened room. As He went in He said to some who were mourning noisily in the outer room,

“Weep not; she is not dead, but sleepeth.” Jesus loved to call death a “sleep,” for He knew that we never die. Then He took the little maid by the hand and called her. She had not gone so far into the country we cannot see that she could not hear a divine Voice calling to her,

Talitha cumi!” (“Maiden, arise!”) At once she rose and walked. She was a little girl of twelve, and very dear to her father and mother, and there was no doubt great joy as well as wonder in the house of the ruler that bright morning after the storm. In their joy and wonder there was danger of forgetting to give her the food she was in need of, and so Jesus gently reminded them, commanding that something should be given her to eat, but he charged them not to talk about the return of their little daughter.


http://kids.ochristian.com/Children-in-the-Bible/Jesus-Cures-A-Maid.shtml

 


And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: but one thing is needful–Luk 10:41-42

Seizing upon the Essential

These words, you will remember, are taken from the brief description of the well-known scene in the home of Martha and Mary at Bethany. And few episodes, even in the Gospel narrative, are more familiar to us than this. What wonderful artists the sacred writers are! They know how to paint with just the few absolutely essential and perfectly correct strokes. There is not one too many, and not one is out of place. Here we have a home, a scene in that home, two characters, and a wealth of teaching from the Lord Jesus, all sketched in and made to live before our eyes and in our memories within the space of just five verses. What a rebuke to our prolixity!

We might have taken a whole chapter to describe what is here told in twenty lines, and we should probably have left the reader with a far less vivid and a far less correct impression. The very form of the narrative teaches us the chief lesson it contains–the importance of seizing upon the essential, and how comparatively few of the things we are apt to consider necessary really are so. It is upon choosing the really essential things in life, and in laying stress upon these, that true welfare depends.


http://devotionals.ochristian.com/george-h-morrison-devotional-sermons-devotional.shtml

A Divided Mind

How clearly, how vividly we see Martha, the good-hearted, bustling, over-anxious mistress and very-much-manager of the household! She is so very busy about so very many things; and all the time she is firmly convinced in her own mind that all she does and all she would provide is absolutely necessary. Not one of all this multitude of things must be wanting. Custom, and her own reputation in her own eyes and among her neighbors, demand them ail. The amount of mental and physical energy which she consumed in providing and preparing and arranging the “many things” which she deemed necessary, she probably never computed, nor did she stay for a moment to consider whether she had forgotten one or two things which in intrinsic worth might be of far greater value than the sum total of all the other things about which she was busying herself. Her mind was too divided to think clearly: part of it was running on this thing and part on that, and yet another part on something else; and her bodily movements were a reflection of her mental ones. As we say, she was all the time in a bustle, running here and there, anxious, distracted, worried; and because she was so, she was much inclined to blame others, even the Lord Jesus, who were really guiltless of the cause of her unhappiness.

Contrast her with her sister Mary, to whom the opportunity–a short one, and one which would quickly pass–of sitting at the feet of the Lord Jesus and listening to Him outweighed in importance everything else at the moment. Besides making the most of this opportunity, just then nothing else mattered. And very probably Mary had a far keener insight into the mind of the Great Teacher, who was there for so short a time, than had the anxious and worried, if kind-hearted, Martha.

What Is Real Hospitality?

When guests enter our house it is right that we should seek to provide them with all that they can need; we would go further, and would offer them what we believe will give them the greatest pleasure. We say to ourselves that we hope they will enjoy their sojourn with us. But do we ever ask in what the true enjoyment of our most worthy guests consists? Do we not too often see their pleasures only through our own eyes, and decide, according to the accepted standards of the conventional which rule us, what they ought to enjoy, rather than take the trouble to enter into their feelings? Is there not often at least a measure of pride, a desire to give ourselves satisfaction, in the nature of the hospitality which we offer? How often when we have been the guests of others would not some of us have gladly given up three-fourths of what was set before us to eat and to drink in exchange for half-an-hour’s quiet conversation with some thoughtful person in the neighborhood we were visiting! For then we could have enjoyed that refreshment of soul, that stimulus of a mind greater and richer than our own, which the busy often need far more than mere bodily satisfaction.

May not Jesus have felt something of this that day in the home at Bethany? He lived a busy life, and His interests were centered on a great purpose–to influence others, to teach them the precious truths He had come to reveal. He would know Mary’s anxiety to learn, that she might impart what she had learned to other women. To help her in this high purpose would be to Jesus far greater enjoyment than to partake of all the material things Martha was so anxiously providing. And, besides, by her bustling to and fro, Martha was actually preventing those few minutes of quiet so precious to Jesus and to Mary His disciple.

Are We Doing the Usual or the Right Thing?

Martha, like a great many well-meaning people today, was evidently the slave of convention, and to do what was the fashion was, in her eyes as in the opinion of so many, to do the “right” thing. Is it not true that the majority of people who wish to be hospitable, and to show kindness and honor and respect, simply ask themselves what, under the circumstances, is the usual thing to do? For in their opinion the usual is only another term for the right thing. They would do what fashion demands. But fashion is a hard taskmaster. He runs up many accounts, but does he pay many bills? And what does being in the fashion too often mean? Does it not mean obtaining and displaying and using what those who are richer than ourselves possess? It too often means a display (at the cost of much labor and anxiety) of our possession of the material things of life. And then the greater part of both our time and our energy must be directed towards these things–towards obtaining and displaying and taking care of them. We must remember that all material things are to be sought and are useful just in so far as, and no further than, they minister to the higher life. A comfortable, well-ordered, healthy house will so minister; but the moment the house and its contents become an end, rather than a means to an end, the true order of importance has been reversed. A sufficiency of plain and wholesome food ministers to the higher life, for in health we can think more clearly, work harder, and be more useful to others; but the moment the care for eating and drinking goes beyond this, the true order of things has been lost. Once more, a reasonable amount of recreation ministers to the usefulness of life, for it also promotes and tends to maintain health, and so the powers of usefulness; but when energy is consumed in providing the means for expensive amusements (often because these are fashionable), and when much time is consumed in taking part in them, in this case also a sense of proportion has been lost. The “judgment values” of life, upon whose correctness so much depends, are in all these cases false. It is still only too frequently true that in being so anxious about the means of living we often deprive ourselves of the opportunity for life itself.

Our Lord says, “Martha, Martha, thou art anxious and troubled about many things: but a few things are needful.” And in Gal 5:1 St. Paul says, “Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free.” And these words of St. Paul’s seem extremely applicable to the subject before us; for Christ has, if we have accepted the liberty He has given us, set us free from “many things.” But have we fulfilled, are we fulfilling, the conditions of that liberty? Are we not rather the slaves of many a worldly conventionality which causes us far more worry and far greater anxiety than we would care to confess? Does not Christ tell us that it was “for judgment that He came into the world”? And the function of judgment is to give right decisions, and, among these, correct estimates of intrinsic value. Thus Christ will help us to decide upon the true value of many possessions and many objects of anxious effort upon which our own judgments are often seriously at fault.

In one place Christ speaks with great plainness upon the subject. In the Parable of the Sower He tells us that some of the seed–and by the seed is meant that which contains the principle of the higher life, that which is essential to the development of that life–some of the seed fell among the thorns. These thorns represent “the anxieties, riches, and pleasures of this life,” which grow and choke the seed and render it unfruitful. The very order of these evils is suggestive; first anxieties, then riches, then pleasures. How anxious some people seem to be not merely to have enough, but to be rich, and that in order to be able to enjoy what are by convention regarded as the pleasures of this world, but which all the time are a cause of weariness of soul to many who participate in them, and in the meanwhile there is no bringing what should be the true fruit of life to perfection.

Think of the contrast between freedom in and through Christ, and of slavery to the conventions, the fashions of the world. As redeemed by Christ, as free in Him, we ought to enjoy the fullest opportunity for the development of the highest life; but actually this is too often prevented by the slavery which I have been describing. How then can we enjoy the freedom which Christ has potentially won for us? Christ is the Light of the World; He is also the Wisdom of God and the Power of God.

Only One Thing Is Needful

The secret of the highest and purest success in life lies in the ability first to choose and then to make effort after those things which are of really greatest worth. Of course, together with this choice, there must be a ceasing to strive after things of no intrinsic or permanent value. This is what Jesus meant when He said, “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness.” Now ability to choose rightly, and also to obtain, implies the possession of all the three qualities of Christ which I have just mentioned, namely, Light, Wisdom, and Power.

These we may obtain from Him; and before we can use them we must obtain them. By means of light we see things as they are; we discern their real nature, we can estimate their relative greatness or smallness. Only in the light, only, that is, in possession of the completest knowledge available, must we choose and select. This selection also implies skill, which is the true meaning of wisdom. The truly wise man is the man who can both choose and use skillfully. Christ’s wisdom is seen in His choices, in His decisions. The proof of His wisdom is seen in the results of these. Christ chooses, and He teaches us to choose those things which are of permanent value and which satisfy the highest parts of our nature. Our want of wisdom is seen in our frequent rejection of these things for objects which give only a very temporary satisfaction, and that only to the lower part of our nature.

But in addition to light or knowledge, in addition also to choice or decision, we need power. We need power to do what we know we ought to do and have chosen to do. Remember St. Paul’s words, “The good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.”

Light, wisdom, power are three conditions of freedom–of the freedom which, as a possibility, Christ has won for us. To obtain them we must possess Him. He is the One needful; they are the few things needful. Possession and use of these will prevent that worry which wears out life, that distraction which, in its endless seeking after things of comparatively little value, destroys even its own object. In its constant search after what it considers necessary as means of living it forgets life itself.

 

 


Though the LORD is great, he cares for the humble,      but he keeps his distance from the proud.

Have you ever noticed that famous people tend to hang out with other famous people? If you’re a “somebody,” whether an athlete, a rock star, or a media mogul, chances are you spend your time with other “somebodies,” people of similar social status to yourself. Meanwhile, the rest of us “nobodies” mingle with those who are rather like us.

God gets it backward. He does precisely the opposite. According to Psalm 138:8, “Though the LORD is great, he cares for the humble, but he keeps his distance from the proud.” For many of us, this is good news. Though we may feel like “nobodies,” in fact, our humble state means that we’re the kind of people who receive God’s special care.

For those of us who tend to think highly of ourselves, whether deserved or not, this psalm offers a word of warning. If we are proud, if we think we are really amazing, then God keeps his distance from us. Perhaps this is true because proud folk tend to be self-reliant. They aren’t inclined to need anybody else, including God.

So, if you are a person of little cultural influence, take heart. Not only does God care for you, but also God tends to use people like you for his purposes. If, however, you’re a person of significant social capital, don’t let this go to your head. Receive your success and situation as gifts from God, but remain humble before him and others. Realize just how much you need God and how immeasurably great he is. Let these truths guide your life and God will always be close to you.

QUESTIONS FOR FURTHER REFLECTION: How do you respond to Psalm 138:6? How can a person be successful and also humble?

PRAYER: Gracious God, I am both encouraged and challenged by this psalm. I’m encouraged because I realize once again that you care for me, that you are not impressed either by my accomplishments or by the lack of them. Thank you for caring for me and being present in my life.

I am challenged, Lord, to remain humble. I confess that there are times I want to be a somebody in the eyes of the world, perhaps even in my own eyes. I can be proud in a way that closes my soul to you. So, I pray, help me to be humble, to have an accurate sense of myself, to rely on you and be open to your presence in my life.

All praise be to you, O God, because you alone are truly great, yet you care for the humble. Amen.


http://www.thehighcalling.org/reflection/when-it-comes-famous-people-god-gets-it-backward?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+TheHighCallingDailyReflections+%28Daily+Reflection+%26+Prayer%29


Discovering Who I Am and Who I Can Be

Now, our true moral and spiritual state can be disclosed only by the Spirit and the Word. The final judgment of the heart is God’s. There is a sense in which we dare not judge each other (Matt. 7:1-5), and in which we should not even try to judge ourselves ( 1 Cor. 4:3). The ultimate judgment belongs to the One whose eyes are like a flame of fire and who sees quite through the deeds and thoughts of men. I for one am glad to leave the final word with Him. There is, nevertheless, a place for self-judgment and a real need that we exercise it (1 Cor. 11:31-32). While our self-discovery is not likely to be complete and our self-judgment is almost certain to be biased and imperfect, there is yet every good reason for us to work along with the Holy Spirit in His benign effort to locate us spiritually in order that we may make such amendments as the circumstances demand. That God already knows us thoroughly is certain (Psa. 139:1-6). It remains for us to know ourselves as accurately as possible. For this reason I offer some rules for self-discovery; and if the results are not all we could desire they may be at least better than none at all. . . .


http://www.cmalliance.org/devotions/tozer?id=583


“Bring them…and I will bless them.”                                           Ge 48:9

Give your children these four things: (1) Instruction. “Do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children” (Dt 4:9 NIV). It is not the responsibility of the government or the school system to instill character and convictions in your child; it’s your job! And God will hold you accountable for it. (2) Correction. “Discipline your children while there is hope” (Pr 19:18 NLT). Children who know how far they can go are relieved of a great burden. Knowing your authority will stand gives them security. When they learn that no really means NO, they’ll be able to say it to others, and to their own impulses. (3) Blessing. “Joseph said unto his father, ‘They are my sons’…And he [Jacob] said, ‘Bring them…and I will bless them.’” Old Testament parents laid hands on their children because they believed the blessing of God was transferable. If nobody did this for you then start a new tradition, for with God’s blessing comes peace, long life and prosperity (See Dt 28). That’s why the enemy has attacked you so often; he’s trying to break the link through which the blessing of God comes. Don’t let him. (4) Example. A great preacher once looked into the crib of his infant son and prayed: “Lord, if ever You made a man, make me one now. Let my life, my example and my prayers mold him into someone You can use. And, Lord, let me die twenty-four hours before I say or do anything that would cause him to stumble.”


http://theencouragingword.wordpress.com/2012/06/17/give-your-children-these-four-things/