Archive for May, 2012

The cable channel TLC continues to promote and legitimize polygamy with their show “Sister Wives.”  TLC, with the advertising support of the following companies, is not only condoning an illegal activity, it is undermining the very institution of marriage and family.  It is evident that this program is attempting to loosen taboos and present something abhorrent as acceptable and just a “normal” lifestyle.

Encouraging advertising statistics:  of the more than 40 different companies represented in the ads from the first two episodes of “Sister Wives,” 78% did not return to advertise on this week’s episode.

The latest episode was sponsored by new advertisers Panera Bread, Sears, Disney, Outback Steakhouse, Lipton tea, All detergent, Wisk detergent, and others.

The following returning advertisers have continued to sponsor “Sister Wives” even after hearing from you and thousands of others.  These “repeat offenders” are:  Burger King, Bissell, Geico, Pinnacle Foods (Vlasic pickles, Duncan Hines), Pfizer products (Advil, Caltrate, Preparation H), Chattem products (Gold Bond lotion, Allegra, Icy Hot), International Delight coffee cream, Ikea, and Amway.

Click here to send a message to the corporations empowering the legitimization of polygamy with their sponsorship of “Sister Wives.”



We received the following letter from one of our readers who expressed very well our mutual concern about the destructive influence of “Sister Wives.”   Oh, for many more who will passionately express such outrage!


Dear American Decency,


I appreciate you taking on the sponsors of the show “Sister Wives.” I’m concerned about so many things in the media, but the show “Sister Wives” is near the top of my list.  I am actually hearing people describe this show as clean and promoting positive family values! Are you kidding me? Shame on TLC for portraying polygamy as some sort of positive “Leave it to Beaver” light. Has the media become so bad that a show like this would be considered family values?  There is DEFINITELY a connection between those pushing for gay marriage and those pushing for polygamy, and this show has ALOT to do with it. The man, Kody, is paraded as some sort of celebrity on shows like Ellen and the former Rosie show on OWN. Coincidence?  So now we have people starting to push for polygamy, when prior to this show, the idea of polygamy repulsed people and reminded them of older men marrying 10 year old girls and impregnating them by age 14. I’m concerned about the “show” which we all know is not a “show,” but also the political rumblings about making polygamy legal. Of course it if is made legal, it will have to be gender neutral, and then women will be allowed to have multiple boy-toys. By this time I’m not sure if I will really care, because by then I will have moved to another country, Fiji perhaps?  I’m concerned about t.v. “reality” shows that have an agenda to change the culture in a negative way. Do you realize that TLC is actually paying these people, which means this man can afford another “wife” (well, technically, an affair), and produce more children who don’t have a voice in this family? I find this lifestyle to be disgusting, no different than an orgy under the guise of “religion”, but the fact that TLC shows it in a positive light is beyond repulsive. I have tried to contact Discovery Communications to let them know how strongly I feel, but with no luck.






We all should share this writer’s “righteous indignation” over the promotion of something as repulsive as polygamy.  If we are silent, will this abhorrent lifestyle become culturally acceptable?


We strongly encourage you to speak out as this reader has.  Share your concern with family and friends, forward this information, post it on Facebook, and encourage others to also express their disgust to the sponsors empowering this normalization of polygamy.


Click here to contact the advertisers supporting “Sister Wives.”

As I type, the House of Representatives is debating the future of civil rights: a girl’s right to life itself.

Is it OK to choose to destroy a healthy unborn child simply because you or your husband prefer a boy?

Should it be legal in this country?

The Constitution gives to Congress the power to enforce the 14th Amendment‘s guarantees of equal protection by appropriate legislation. And this week, in a historic vote, the House is going to consider using that power to ban abortions based on gender.

The bill is called the “Prenatal Anti-Discrimination Act,” or PRENDA, because it is being brought up under special rules. It will require two-thirds support in Congress — a large bipartisan majority — to pass.

The prospect is sending the hard left, which dominates the Democratic Party, into conniption fits.

Unborn babies are being targeted by their own parents for destruction simply because they are the “wrong” gender. The existence of sex selection abortion in this country is not seriously debatable. First, there is abundant personal testimony in South Asian immigrant women who feel pressured to produce boys and relay these concerns to doctors and researchers.

Sunita Puri and colleagues interviewed 65 South Asian immigrant women on the West and East coasts who had pursued fetal sex selection: 40 percent of them admitted they had aborted a prior fetus for being the wrong gender; 89 percent of the women who were carrying a female child in their current pregnancy aborted her.

Puri wrote: “The major themes that arose during interviews included the sociocultural roots of son preference, women’s early socialization around the importance of sons, the different forms of pressure to have sons that women experienced from female in-laws and husbands, the spectrum of verbal and physical abuse that women faced when they did not have male children and/or when they found out they were carrying a female fetus, and the ambivalence with which women regarded their own experience of reproductive ‘choice.'”

Jason Abrevaya’s 2009 peer-reviewed study “Are There Missing Girls in the United States?” in the American Economic Journal concluded, “The observed boy-birth percentages are consistent with over 2,000 ‘missing’ Chinese and Indian girls in the United States between 1991 and 2004.”

Killing a baby because it’s the wrong sex is not only wrong, it ought to be illegal. There is no more serious form of gender discrimination than that.

When the immoral act of choosing to deprive a child of life because it’s the wrong sex is not illegal, it becomes normalized.

Lila Rose‘s Live Action released a video showing a Planned Parenthood clinic counselor advising a woman on how to get a sex-selection abortion, warning her that if she tells the doctor that’s her reason for wanting an ultrasound, he or she may not cooperate. Planned Parenthood fired the woman for not following protocols.

Planned Parenthood, though, inadvertently testified to the effectiveness of laws banning sex selection abortion, telling The Huffington Post that while it condemns abortions based on gender, its policy is to provide “high-quality, confidential, nonjudgmental care to all who come into” its clinics.

HuffPo reports: “That means that no Planned Parenthood clinic will deny a woman an abortion based on her reasons for wanting one, except in those states that explicitly prohibit sex-selective abortions (Arizona, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania and Illinois).”

What good are laws against sex-selection abortion?

Will banning sex-selection abortion eliminate them? Probably not. But at least they will not be able to be pursued openly, as if it were a normal, decent thing to do. Gendercide will become an unmentionable act, and the law will affirm the equal dignity of both male and female in our society.

It’s a great advance.

And even more importantly, when PRENDA is challenged in court, as the left’s lawyers are sure to do, the Supreme Court will face a new argument: that the 14th Amendment gives to Congress the power to regulate abortions as part of its power to ensure the equal protection of all people in the United States, male and female, black and white, born and unborn.

Maggie Gallagher

Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.

Goldfish Grace

Posted: May 31, 2012 in Max Lucado

Goldfish Grace.

“Speak to the entire assembly of Israel and say to them: ‘Be holy because I, the LORD your God, am holy.” Leviticus 19:2

All of us who have kids have been guilty of ending an argument about why they should or shouldn’t do something with the conversation stopper: “Because I said so.” The reply is powerful because it has an edge to it. There are times when God is edgy with us. We’d like to stand there and argue with Him, but He keeps saying things like, “Because I said so” or “You be holy, because I am holy.” His call to holiness in our lives has that edgy sound.

In the Old Testament, when God wanted to bring that kind of holy edge to His people, He showed up in a place called the temple. God’s holiness came from another world and engaged with yours and mine. Jesus’ birth was a holy invasion—it came with an edge—from another place, another world, another reality. It cut through pretense by coming as a peasant baby born in a stable surrounded by sheep and goats. It cut into religious and political agendas by displaying genuine humility as a way to power. It sliced through the stuffy, hot air of classicism by first announcing His arrival to lowly shepherds working the third shift outside the city limits. It carved away centuries of religious oppression and hypocrisy by showing the power of quiet innocence. Holiness in God’s terms has an edge.

And it’s not only edgy in its essence; it’s also edgy in its demands. Because we represent Him, we are called to live with a holy edge. To live with a holy edge means to live differently—to make daily choices that square with God’s holiness; to stand for right in a wrong-headed culture; to preserve honesty, justice, and integrity no matter what. It means to replace greed with generosity and to forgive the cruelest offense. To serve others instead of ourselves, and to use our power to bless others instead of using it to advance our own agendas. It’s that kind of edgy living that makes a huge statement about the distinct difference that a holy God makes in our world.

When God first spoke to His people through Moses, He told them to live in and enjoy the land He had promised to them. But they were to live with a holy edge. They were to live differently than their pagan counterparts, uniquely reflecting the Holy difference of the true and living God.

Don’t lose your edge! Holiness sets you wonderfully apart in an increasingly unholy world. It’s no wonder that He said we should be holy because He is holy!


  • In what ways do the people around you see you as different because of your walk with Christ?
  • In what areas of your life do you feel you’ve lost your edge? What can you do to reclaim it?
  • Take some time to read through Isaiah 1:1–31; 2:1-22; 3:1-26; 4:1-6; 5:1-30; 6:1-13. Isaiah addressed his words to a people who had lost their holy edge. Write down some of the insights you gain from reading these passages.
  • Write down a prayer you can use daily, asking the Lord to sharpen any dull edges in your relationship to Him—your words, thoughts, attitudes toward others, and so on.

Jesus did not commit Himself to them . . .for He knew what was in man —John 2:24-25

Put Trust in God First. Our Lord never put His trust in any person. Yet He was never suspicious, never bitter, and never lost hope for anyone, because He put His trust in God first. He trusted absolutely in what God’s grace could do for others. If I put my trust in human beings first, the end result will be my despair and hopelessness toward everyone. I will become bitter because I have insisted that people be what no person can ever be— absolutely perfect and right. Never trust anything in yourself or in anyone else, except the grace of God.

Put God’s Will First. “Behold, I have come to do Your will, O God” (Hebrews 10:9).

A person’s obedience is to what he sees to be a need— our Lord’s obedience was to the will of His Father. The rallying cry today is, “We must get to work! The heathen are dying without God. We must go and tell them about Him.” But we must first make sure that God’s “needs” and His will in us personally are being met. Jesus said, “. . . tarry . . . until you are endued with power from on high” (Luke 24:49). The purpose of our Christian training is to get us into the right relationship to the “needs” of God and His will. Once God’s “needs” in us have been met, He will open the way for us to accomplish His will, meeting His “needs” elsewhere.

Put God’s Son First. “Whoever receives one little child like this in My name receives Me” (Matthew 18:5).

God came as a baby, giving and entrusting Himself to me. He expects my personal life to be a “Bethlehem.” Am I allowing my natural life to be slowly transformed by the indwelling life of the Son of God? God’s ultimate purpose is that His Son might be exhibited in me.

Count off fifty days up to the day after the seventh Sabbath, and then present an offering of new grain to the LORD.”Leviticus 23:16

We’re used to counting down the days when we have something exciting to look forward to. But when it comes to the festival of Shavuot, we count up. Why?

Shavuot, or Pentecost, marks one of the most important days in human history. On that day we celebrate the revelation of God and the giving of the Torah to humanity.  Surely it would make much more sense to say, “49 days left until the big day, now 48, only 47 left,” and so on. Yet the Bible commands us to start at 1 and count out loud every day until we reach 50.

The practice of counting the days between Passover and Shavuot is known as “counting the Omer.” It is named for the barley sacrifice that was brought during this time period when the Temple stood. At the end of these seven weeks, a new and different offering was brought – one of “new grain.”

Something changes in these intermediate weeks. They are intended to be introspective and transformational, so much so that what a person can offer God in the beginning is profoundly different by the end. At the beginning of the 50 days, a journey begins. By the end, we are ready to receive the Word of God.

That’s why we count up, and not down. As each day passes, we become more, not less. Like climbing the rungs on a ladder, we ascend towards Heaven one step at a time. By the time we reach the top we can appreciate the distance that we have spanned. Passover celebrates our physical redemption, but it takes seven weeks until we are able to experience our spiritual redemption on Shavuot.

The offering that we bring to God on Passover is reminiscent of animal food, but the one that we bring on Shavuot from the “new grain” is food fit for man. Over the seven-week period we refine ourselves and rise above our animal nature. By day 50 we are the human beings we were intended to be “in the image of God” (Genesis 1:27) and we are ready to keep His Word.

Counting the Omer lends us a paradigm that can be used year-round. When tackling the big goals in life, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. How will we cross such a great distance? How can we accomplish such lofty tasks? Maybe it’s better not to even start! But the message of the Omer is to take the journey one step at a time.

Take that enormous task in front of you and break it into smaller parts. Step by step, rung by rung, you will make your way all the way to the top. And when accomplished, you will not be the same person who you started out to be!

You will never get a humble heart until it is born from above, from the heart of Christ. For man has lost his own humanity and alas, too often has a demon heart.

God wants us, as Christians, to be simple, human, approachable and childlike. The Christians that we know and love best, and that are nearest to the Lord, are the most simple.

Whenever we grow stilted we are only fit for a picture gallery, and we are only good on a pedestal; but, if we are going to live among men and love and save them, we must be approachable and human. All stiffness is but another form of self-consciousness.

Ask Christ for a human heart, for a smile that will be as natural as your little child’s in your presence. Oh, how much Christ did by little touches! He never would have got at the woman of Samaria if He had come to her as the prophet.

He sat down, a tired man, and said: “Give me a drink of water.” And so, all through His life, it was His simple humanness and love that led Him to others, and led them to Him and to His great salvation.